WHY!!! being a father to 2 girls i am a god dad bad mom and alone shoot me please

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Permalink Reply by Richie on October 2, 2009 at 12:58pm

It is defiantly hard being a daddy to little girl who's mommy is not around. I know the feeling. What does a daddy know about blush and mascara, pig tails and french braids, bra's and tampons? For me, not a whole lot. But I'm ok with stepping outside of my comfort zone to help her out with any problems she may have. I'm sure we'll catch on some time. I'm also guess that many single mother of boys feel the same way. Boys like hunting, fishing, and monster trucks. I'm not saying that woman don't know about these things but they are normally associated with daddy teaching his son. I'm sure you will do just fine. Just keep your head up.

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Permalink Reply by Pegasus on October 3, 2009 at 11:03pm

Oh dang, Ritchie - you just nailed it, buddy! Shay is 12 and at back to school time we had to go bra shopping - man, was that a trip. Then a couple of weeks ago we're at WallyWorld and Shay needed some "personal products", but she wasn't sure exactly what. She's looking at me...I'm looking at her...she's not saying anything...finally I told her "Sweetie, your just going to have to trust in me and we'll figure it out or we'll find out, but you've got to tell me what you need". We burst through that barrier and I succeeded in thoroughly embarrassing her by hand carrying said products to the register. She actually got quite a jolt out of that. I also now know where every Ulta cosmetics and Sally beauty supply in town is. I now walk in the door of either establishment and immediately flag down the manager and beg mercilessly for help. I'd like to think I bring much amusement to their day.

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Permalink Reply by Richie on October 5, 2009 at 10:37am

Yea I'm dreading the day. I'm with you though, as long as I bring a little amusement to their day.....

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Permalink Reply by Jessica Hinamon on October 2, 2009 at 9:53pm

Hey Joe,
I am having a hard time too. After almost 11 years, my partner started cheating. Within a month we are living apart and I am devastated. I am so worried about my kids. I have 4 year old twins: a boy and girl. I am not worried about trying to raise my son, being a woman, because we are super connected emotionally . I actually get him better than I get my daughter. It is just different personalities. I just wanted to say that if they feel loved unconditionally by you and you are open and genuine with them they will feel like you are all in it together. I think that may be the best we can all hope for. Do you have any woman friends, a sister, mom etc... who can be involved in your daughters lives? 43 is not old by the way. It is a frame of mind. I am 35 but am always getting mistaken for 28 ish-lol. One of my best friends is a single dad and he is just great with her. He is protective, open, honest. She feels so safe, supported by him. I never felt that way with my dad and my parents weren't divorced. Good luck to you Joe. I know it is hard. Take care- Jessica

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Permalink Reply by Pegasus on October 3, 2009 at 4:54pm

Joe, I'm with you in that it's difficult being the sole provider with so much riding on the line like the welfare of your kids. That juggling act is probably one of the most common things that us single parents seem to face - men and women alike. I often find myself in the same quandry, struggling to spend enough time at my job to secure our future but at the same time not so much that I am not present for my daughter. I try to fill the time I do have with my daughter with ample opportunities for us to connect and communicate. Sounds like you are doing the right things to me, Joe. Good man.

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Permalink Reply by joe morgan on October 3, 2009 at 9:38pm

Thank you I am glad to know iam not alone it really sucks to to be in this postion but i am seing that i am doing it as it comes still i have have a long way to go hey if ever there is anything i can help with please i am sure we could put our heads together and figure it out i am struggling with all the things that come along with this but i am doing the best i can so again thanks so much for your input and good luck to you if i can ever pass along what i am learning please contact me after all its our kids and it sounds like you are a great man also

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Permalink Reply by WhisperingWinds on October 4, 2009 at 8:46am

Two good dads. Women with boys feel the same wayl would be happy to help. i make a better friend than a wife it seems.
just know you are doing the right things. we all go through the i am not good enough phase of parenting. your daughters need you now.

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Permalink Reply by WhisperingWinds on October 4, 2009 at 8:49am

i was lucky that i had a dad before my parents spli when i was 11 and my ex was not teachng my son much of anythng. still it has had issues. i am proud of one manly thing i taught my son. to shoot. came in handy when he was in the military. when he co finally asked to meet me he did not believe i had taught my son to shoot. my dad taught me. you can have good female friiend wihtout being involved to that can help for advice.

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Permalink Reply by Kayla Booth on October 5, 2009 at 12:11pm

That's why single dad's should be on here networking, talking to women about these things [such as bra shopping for your young daughter, periods, and other FEMALE things]. So I'm glad you posted this! And you're not a whiner.

I'm always willing to give any advice/support needed.

I have a 10 year old cousin who is developing more rapidly at her age than most little girls, and she always comes to me advice. I try to be a positive role model for her and she trusts me with everything.

So just to throw this out there, any of you guys need advice for these types of things? Just message me!

-Kayla

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Permalink Reply by Richie on October 5, 2009 at 12:20pm

Where would the comic relief be in that.....lol

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Permalink Reply by Pegasus on October 7, 2009 at 2:19am

Alright Kayla...it's game on then!!! 1st question: Where do you take a 'tween with long hair to get a nice haircut/style to the point that she feels pretty and maybe a bit pampered without dropping $75-plus to pull it off?

Hey, for real. I very much appreciate your willingness to smooth the path a bit for a beautiful lady-in-the-making like my daughter, as well as the daughters of the other guys here who are just trying to figure it out as best we can. That's very gracious of you. Please let me know if there is any way that I can reciprocate your kindness.

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Permalink Reply by Kayla Booth on October 7, 2009 at 5:48pm

Well something I do when I can't afford a regular salon, is hit up a good beauty school. I get my hair cut/colored for $40 or $50, and they style it a bit when they're done with it.

How old is she? You could also get her a mani or a pedi, those are my faves!!

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