When the Single Blues hit...What do YOU do?

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Permalink Reply by Holly on November 14, 2008 at 10:34pm

Hi Sandie! I have been working through this same issue myself, as I've been single for four years now, and I started a group called "The Pursuit of Happiness" here on iHeart to get the same kinds of ideas you are asking for here.

I think exercise is a really great way to boost mood, and I am also finding out that nutrition plays a big role in mental wellness as well. For example, Omega 3 fatty acids play a big role in boosting mood, especially the EPA fatty acids (a kind of Omega 3).

Please feel free to cross post any ideas you come up with on my group's page. We single parents need to support each other with positive ideas!

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Permalink Reply by Heather on December 16, 2008 at 10:52am

Vitamin D for us P-town folks especially in the winter months is a good idea as well

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Permalink Reply by Steve on November 15, 2008 at 11:55pm

I agree with this as I do these also and would just like to add that I also meditate, look at everything I have to be grateful for, and reach out to those less fortunate than I ( anytime I'm trying to be of service to someone, I tend to forget about whats troubleing me ).

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Permalink Reply by layo on November 16, 2008 at 11:36am

Anytime am feeling like this, i watch a movie or just log on and chat wt friends.

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Permalink Reply by layo on November 16, 2008 at 11:38am

i guess i will hv to try the exercise part out and see how it works out for me.

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Permalink Reply by Sandie G. on November 16, 2008 at 10:17pm

If you find someplace that has a daycare on site.....It is great breather for some kid free time. Someplace like Bally's or 24 hour fitness usually gives you up to 2 hours per day. That is plenty of time to work out and go relax in the jacuzzi. Give yourself some time to just relax and unwind.

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Permalink Reply by Traci on November 17, 2008 at 8:14am

I go to montana jacks and eat the most yummiest dessert ever or if it's a day without my son i will go to my favorite restaurant which is a pick between any 3 olive garden, red lobster, dos machos.

The single blues do really hit when I'm at 'family reunions or at holiday gatherings it's like I'm happy for them but sad and jealous if you know what I mean because they have someone romantically wise if you know what I mean.

Then I think well at least I'm not alone and I have a special lil guy which is my son to bring to the holiday dinners which light everyone up.

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Permalink Reply by Leah on November 17, 2008 at 9:15am

Well, in addition to all the great suggestions below, I treat myself to a little something nice. Doesn't have to be expensive, but a nice hair clip or something that makes me feel a little bit sexy and less like a frumpy single mom, LOL.

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Permalink Reply by Scott on November 17, 2008 at 3:21pm

The singles' blues don't hit me at reunions very often. Usually 'cause I'm chuckling on the inside as I watch couples doing the "don't bicker in public" routine, or parents doing the "don't flip out at the yard-apes in public" routine. My kids are old enough and (usually) disciplined enough that I can amuse myself by watching couples trying not to conflict, or parents of younger kids trying to maintain sanity. All of that makes me way more appreciative of being single. Single parenting is way easier for me than married parenting. This is probably because of the ladies I've picked to produce offspring with.

Anyway, whenever I'm around lots of couples I typically feel increasingly grateful not to be in a relationship. :) The young starstruck couples are a little more difficult; being freshly infatuated is a giddily happy feeling for sure.

The couples who really make me feel miserably lonely are the old couples who've spent their lives learning to mesh together. That's what I want more than anything in a relationship. Sex, beauty, fun, all of that gets old pretty quickly.

I know that there are vehement protests to the contrary; when I was in my 20s and early 30s I made the same protests with at least as much vehemence. :)

But little old couples who love each other past the wrinkles and false teeth and missing hair... those are the relationships that are worth spending a lifetime on.

Maybe I just need to date little old ladies. Hm. That would probably solve a remarkable number of relationship problems. Little old ladies are freakin' awesome. And they almost always find me adorable for some reason.

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Permalink Reply by FRANCINE on November 17, 2008 at 4:13pm

I have wondered this same question, knowing I can not be the only one who feels the blues. I try and remember to do one thing for myself daily that I find rewarding. That can be taking a walk, getting to the art project that has been put off for months or even years, talking to a old friend on the phone or volunteering. Reaching out to someone can make yourself and the other not so blue anymore.

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Permalink Reply by Laurakim on November 21, 2008 at 11:27pm

Gym also really helps me to realise tension and frustration!

It totally depends on why I am feeling down about single on what I do! Sometimes I drag friends out with me and just go crazy for the night or I phone a friend with benefits - sometimes just the human contact of another person can really refresh you!!

And if I cant do any of that - I open a bottle of wine!

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Permalink Reply by Tish on December 16, 2008 at 8:32am

I have a beer with my BFF. She lives two hours away but I call her up and ask her to have one with me. We crack them open and talk and drink and I suddenly don't feel so lonely anymore.

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