religion conflict!

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Permalink Reply by Shannon Barnes on September 27, 2009 at 1:47am

Ah LyN, such is the life. Let it be, let it be. If he's done, he's done and you will find someone willing to take the time to get to know about you when it is right. Smile and believe in yourself and don't hold on to those who shut you down.

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Permalink Reply by LyN on September 27, 2009 at 2:31am

thank you for the encouraging words. funny thing is, i let it go right after the last conversation. and soon after 2 days later, he hit me up asking how was i doing. now, where does that come from? heh!

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Permalink Reply by Jenny on December 12, 2009 at 11:16pm

My heart goes out to you. Well, since your last post he is trying to talk to you. Maybe he got over his "blindness" and you started a new revelation in himself like: "Oh, people of all faiths are people and can be really cool to get to know." I sure hope so for his sake, because he is missing out on a great deal of goodness by blocking others out of his life over things like that!! None of my best friends have the same faith as I and I just love and adore the things they bring into my life!!! Its like my life is decorated with so many different colors and its cool. I hope he gets to know the great person you are girl! Its so sad sometimes how others segregate themselves because of ignorance.. but you just loving him showed the TRUE COLORS of your faith by not letting your faith limit you to wanting to get to know him as well. You just be you! And if someone else is freed from ignorance because of you, then you did a very good thing indeed! You rock!

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Permalink Reply by LyN on December 13, 2009 at 6:00am

thanks, Jenny. well, i believe things happen for a reason. we dont talk as much now even when we both are online. and i realise that im not feeling as bad as i was before. im not as affected now. i guess it's better this way. we both are clear abt how things are and can be. he's happy with his life and i am with mine. i agree with Shannon, such is life!

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Permalink Reply by Lee on December 14, 2009 at 12:05am

You go girl!! I'm also surrounded by different people from mixed cultures and I think it's great. If anyone can't accept you for what you are, then I guess they're not worth it. Just be yourself.

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Permalink Reply by LyN on December 14, 2009 at 5:45am

you're so right! anyway, life is such that we are surrounded with people of different minds and perspectives in life. so, let it be. no, i shall let it be! ;)

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Permalink Reply by WhisperingWinds on December 14, 2009 at 12:24pm

I agree with Lee. My first husband was a buddhist from a buddhist land. I am not. He, not me wanted our kids to be raised the way I was. Love found a way. for 9 yrs anway! We came from such different cultures but it was not a big issue. My second husband now huge issues and he is in Canada and I from the US. He had old fashioned ideas about a spouse more than my first ever did. I have friends from several nations and we have been lifelong friends. Two going on 30 yrs. If people get along they get along and culture should not be an issue.

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Permalink Reply by LyN on January 4, 2010 at 11:45am

this i second truly. i have friends from many walks of life and family backgrounds. i used to grow up having stereotypical mindsets about "heavy issues" in life. but now, after getting close to a guy who is an African American, i would say he has gradually changed my perception on how i look at and handle most of life issues. he makes it easier for me to understand and appreciate life as it is right now being a single parent and enjoying every bit of it. life is already hard enough, so why make it harder? :P

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Permalink Reply by Morgan Cain on March 15, 2010 at 7:05pm

It doesn't feel good now, but someone will come along and accept you just as you are, regardless of your religious background.

I've experienced this, and my advice to you is don't be bothered with someone that even has the smallest issue with your religion. It becomes a bigger issue than what it needs to be, and life is too short to waste time on people who don't accept you as you are.

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Permalink Reply by uomeasmile (Kim) on March 15, 2010 at 9:10pm

Wow, I feel like I'm going to get slammed for my opinion. So let me start by saying that I respect all cultures and religions. Not only that, I love studying religions. I believe all the richness from many cultures have woven a beautiful tapestry of America. That being said, when dating, I want to date someone of my religion. I made a commitment to raise my children in my faith. That commitment will not change. While my children will respect, learn, and even participate in other religions, it is a non-negotiable factor for me in choosing a partner. I am active in my church, and for me that would be very important for any future partner. If it was just friendship, I understand how hurtful that could be. But speaking for myself, I know what I want and need for a future relationship to work for me and my children, and that would include a partner with the same religious values. I wish you all the luck in the world!

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