Craigslist? He has an ad on Craigslist and I responded? <<BLUSH>>

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Permalink Reply by Shelley Grieser on January 9, 2009 at 3:39pm

I agree with John,

I think the free listings can draw a lot of strange rangers, be careful, but enjoy! Note you should also be cautious on the paid sites, as well. People on paid sites (men and women) do not always represent themselves accurately. It is easy to for people to be/say whoever they want to be on the internet. I met a guy on Christian Cafe, we dated for 14 months, he got re-married (about 4 months after we split) and divorced again within a year. He immediately went back out on Christian Cafe, could not believe his profile. (He was not a Christian even though he talked the talk- he did not walk the walk and he was not the person he portrayed himself to be) I know of many experiences from others who met people that were not WHO they claimed to be and others who have had success. Key is to be cautious.

Safety - when and if you meet, meet in a public place, let a friend know where and when you are meeting this person, their name etc., and check in with them after the date to let them know how it went, assure them you are okay. Better safe than sorry.

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Permalink Reply by JustPeachy on January 9, 2009 at 5:34pm

Well, this afternoon he told me who he worked for and it's a company where I probably still have some contacts. I'll put out some feelers this weekend...he also gave me some more personal information which did make me relax a bit. It's all stuff I can check out, given enough time.

End result -- he asked me on a "live" date at the end of the month. Plenty of time to check him out AND to get cold feet - LOL! He's already mentioned a willingness to meet where I know people, or have coffee in broad daylight downtown, or to let me pick any combination of situations where I will feel comfortable. That's a positive, right?

So, I'll check him out and remain cautious. I do have a friend who is my "and this is where I'm going/license plate #/phone #" friend. She likes that role because then she can get any "juicy details" before anyone else -- lol!

Anyway, thank you all -- again. I will probably back out but right now it's been a fun couple of days with the CL man who just happens to be (wow) so my type just by happenstance. Peachy

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Permalink Reply by Marcelo on January 10, 2009 at 5:41pm

I have used CL for a lot of good things. Found this site, my babysitter, jogging stroller, and other cool things. But the one time I tried the personal section, I was conned by a gay guy. So, after that I'll will never look on the personal ads again!!!

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Permalink Reply by Victoria on January 11, 2009 at 9:56pm

Why not!! Just because he is on craiglist doesnt mean any different then match yahoo eharmony or any of those.... just that he didnt have to pay....... Just get to know him and know that he isnt married and dont meet alone until you know for sure......

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Permalink Reply by Scott on January 12, 2009 at 1:52pm

My suggestion is to get to know him via email or chat. Also, make your first date a "safe" one... go out with friends, maybe, or meet at a public place (where you have your own transportation home).

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Permalink Reply by JustPeachy on January 12, 2009 at 7:45pm

So, this has ended up being rather fun. He's odd & quirky & highly sexual & endearing ... and not at all interested in the kind of dating that I am. Nonetheless I've made a spectacular email buddy, a cyber friend who engages parts of me that need to be expressed, and probably one heck of a drinking friend in person. Perhaps even a "lov-ahhhhh" if timing, emotions, and that last bit of Catholic upbringing/nagging/thing gets out of the way!

Good luck & hunting all...I'd say I'd do CL again, maybe, and appreciate all the words of wisdom along the way! Giggles, smiles, laughter, and blushing...Peachy

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Permalink Reply by Heather Mac on January 13, 2009 at 10:53am

oops, just read this update now, after i wrote my post! I'm happy that you have met someone that will add to your life (in one way or another!) and that's what it's about, right?

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Permalink Reply by JustPeachy on January 18, 2009 at 5:06pm

Thanks Heather Mac. He's actually on a tropical isle right now...thousands of miles away but I got a lovely photo he'd taken on a scuba excursion.

Now, to find a man to DATE......you find any extra's you just send 'em old Peachy's way!!

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Permalink Reply by Heather Mac on January 13, 2009 at 10:48am

I have some engaged friends who met through a CL post!

It's impossible to know what you are really getting on ANY dating site.

I'm thrilled for you! And at some point, you must open yourself up and risk being known. You will know when that time is right girl! Hang in there!

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