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The Hot Ex & What do U tell yourself?!

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Yes, I've had to admit it, my Ex is really looking pretty hot these days. And no, it's not cuz I'm getting desperate. LOL! ;)
Physically he's always looked good, but darn it, lately he comes to visit our daughter and he is clean-cut, well dressed, obviously been working-out a lot, and has a sun glow not just a tan! He looks just as good as when we first met years ago and I often wonder how could that be possible he's so much older now! I really try to not notice...BUT it's kind of hard not to!

I'd like to say to him: "I resent you looking so hot now, why the heck did you stop looking like this when we were together!" I would only jokingly say that though. But of course I don't...I always remember who he REALLY is. So, then it's quite easy to walk away.

AM I the only one that looks at his Ex and says "OMG, he/she is looking pretty hot today!" ? And if so what the heck do you tell yourself??? Do you ever make a comment to your Ex about it?

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Permalink Reply by Aurora on October 8, 2008 at 8:43pm: *LoL* You girls are just funny! =); ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Michael Navarro on October 4, 2008 at 10:24pm: You were itimate with him that connection is not going to go away thats why we were designed to be with one person only but I don't think any of us can say that about ourselves in that nature....anyway just be real about it and bring all that in the open; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Maria on October 6, 2008 at 11:07am: It's believed that monogamy actually goes against human nature. But I'm totally the monogamous type, so I get what you're saying.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Michael Navarro on October 6, 2008 at 11:22am: Actually had to look that word up "monogamy" wikipedia said Monogamy is the custom or condition of having only one mate in a relationship, thus forming a couple. The word monogamy comes from the Greek word monos "μονός", which means one or alone, and the Greek word gamos "γάμος", which means marriage or union. Serial monogamy is having no more than one sexual partner at a time but allows for multiple partners in a lifetime........Wow guess thats kinda how my mind was thinking; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Scott on October 6, 2008 at 12:20pm: I've been noticing lately that the boys' mom has lost a fair bit of weight. Yesterday when I dropped the boys off I noticed her legs and was surprised to find myself wanting to let my gaze linger. I didn't; she'd be superpissed at that. I actually wish I knew a way to compliment her on it but I can't conceive of a way that wouldn't offend her in some way.

I suspect that she struggles with this, though. Since the divorce I've gotten involved in acrobatics and double-stunting and I'm in way better shape than I've been for 10 years. Luckily I still dress like a big dork and I'm sure that helps, except that the big dork look is the man she fell in love with. But I think she's fine with it and I'm not dating cute young thangs, so she doesn't have to deal with *that* aspect of jealousy.

That's gotta be hellish... watching your ex-spouse with the lifeguard/supermodel and feeling miserable by comparison.

My first wife used to throw her boyfriends in my face 'cause they were young and some of 'em were pretty buff dudes... but I didn't really care 'cause I was still at the point where I was like, "Buddy, if you want my cast-off then more power to ya."

Plus, she didn't keep any of them longer than the time it took to either get pregnant or have a big fight and dump them for whatever reason. So it was kind of like, "Oh, this is the new month's model, huh? He dresses well... he'll probably be able to pay a lot of child support. Nice."

I wish my younger boys' mom could find a nice guy to date... but I also fear that she's got enough challenges that he'd go through the same hell with her that I did and that's not good for my sons to live through.; ▶ Reply to This

Permalink Reply by Sweet Pea's Mommy on October 8, 2008 at 12:44pm: Wow, that's a mouth full :) Yeah luckily I don't have any of these issues. Acrobatics, cool way to stay in shape and have fun!; ▶ Reply to This